The chronic worry can make you live a nightmare.
You sleep poorly, you biting your nails, you are smoking - - There are many therapy such as relaxation, meditation, NLP and - - techniques of self-confidence.
However, if you suffer from chronic anxiety, the question comes often (very often) a problem: Your inner child who needs to be approved.
Throughout life, the inner child is manifested in you. And his principal means of being heard, that the concept approval. "I need the approval of others."
However, the problem of unrest in society, is very frequently the expression of your inner child. When you were a child, you "need" to be approved.
- Approved by your parents when you were doing a somersault
- Approved by your teachers for your school work
- Approved by the surroundings when you are drawing, dancing, etc. -
- Approved by the boys for your dress, your bike
- Approved for your choices or decisions
Childhood is a stage in the development and strengthening of the concept approval. But the adult in you, he must overcome them -
The adult in you, how manages Does this child who lives in you?
The problem of the anguish of your existence is the origin in the "resurgence" of your inner child. It is therefore necessary to be aware of this presence that you "hurt".
Your inner child is not evil in itself. But the resulting behavior of the latter.
Namely:
You've kept this distressing and demeaning need to be approved by others.
- Approval by your manager
- Approval vis a vis your colleagues
- Approval by your "friends"
Of course, shyness, the reserve has nothing to do with that. You can be shy and suffer terribly from the need to be approved.
Plus you have this need to be approved, the more you depend on others. In any way, as if your life not your own. Here are some hints if you suffer from symptoms of the inner child:
- You always fear the gaze of others
- You think we talk about you
- You believe that "others" you misjudge
- You always want to do (not for you, but for the head - ..)
- You do not want to offend anyone by saying NO, then you fail before he even asks for your help
- You are defending the position of another person (even if deep inside you, you do not agree)
- Etc. -
These attitudes hurt you deeply and your life is under your control.
Remember this!
If you want to get rid of the destructive power of the need for approval from others,
YOU MUST LEARN TO YOU APPROVE YOU EVEN WITHOUT SEEKING APPROVAL OF OTHERS!
Good numbers of illnesses were healed almost instantly, the moment or the person to understand his desire to be approved it caused much harm. The relief is almost immediate.
Brigitte was very anxious. It is frequently pre-occupied the thoughts of others on the subject. She noted that she was constantly seeking other approvals and that caused him a permanent self-critical of herself. "He must think I'm hopeless," "She must speak to me now" - -
The change was for her she defended her even now, rather than the need for approval by others, began as a challenge which took time. But a challenge that allowed him to detach from the eyes of others.
The moment she did not pay attention to the judgments of others, Brigitte felt that his anxiety abated. She became calmer.
When she was attention to the judgments of individuals, she noted that her anxiety was directly linked to its judgments, false beliefs, and desire to obtain the approval of others.
As Brigitte gradually learn to become "an inner parent" rather than enhance "your inner child." Your anxiety will gradually decrease. As you gain in quality of life. Better access your true source. Do you agree without seeking to be approved.
It is the source of your inner peace.
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